Leaving the Seminary

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So just to set the record straight (since some have been speculating or asking indirectly behind my back), I did not leave the seminary for another woman. I left because of a man. His name is Emmanuel.

It’s funny how when a person decides to get married or join the religious, no one ‘speculates’ or asks if the person is doing so out of impure motives, out of selfish reasons, or out of a need to feel needed or be someone important. Everyone kind of assumes that God led them to this beautiful vocation.

But when someone decides to leave the seminary (or a relationship), some start to speculate if it’s due to some failure of sorts. I’ve heard people speculating if I’ve been kicked out of the seminary, or that another woman has ‘stolen’ me away. Could it not be entirely plausible that the same God who led me to the seminary is now asking me to explore another path at this point in time, just as the same God who brought me into my previous relationship invited me to take a different path at the favorable time? Could it not be a case of a successful discernment and a faithful following of God’s promptings rather than a ‘failure’ or ‘mistake’ on the part of the individual concerned?

I bet when our Lady got pregnant, she must’ve been the talk of the town, and not for having obeyed the promptings of the Spirit. I bet when someone decides to leave the seminary or religious house, not often do they have people celebrating with them for having courageously taken an even more difficult step to be true to the Lord’s path for them.

While I try not to take to heart what some have said of me, I can’t deny that I feel hurt and disappointed. My only hope is we give others a little more faith and trust, or at the very least, some Christian charity through our love and support in their very difficult season, rather than to speculate without actually hearing the full story behind their actions.

If you take the time to listen to my story, you too might also want to leave everything to follow this Man and go wherever He leads, even if it means changing your original plans, and paying the price of what others might say.


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Nicholas Lye

Nicholas Lye

Nicholas Lye is a Singaporean currently on a year's sabbatical from the seminary, discerning his path in life and striving to facilitate encounters with God in the workplace and ordinary life.

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    Fortunately, I never had to leave a seminary because I never entered one. You can be fully consecrated to Christ without entering the religious life. It’s a place of the heart, and not where you are located. No vows are required. Surrender and unconditional trust in Christ can be done anywhere.
    The best way that I found was to cast all of my care on the Lord and to be anxious for nothing (see 1Peter 5:5-7 and Philippians 4:6-7). God wants us to have inner peace and strength above all else. This is the best remedy for dealing with our sin nature and its recurring sin actions.

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