What Temperament Are You?

I remember when I was engaged to my now wife Jane, one of the biggest discoveries I had to process was learning that she was an introvert. We were at a social function with people we both knew well and it came up that she would be happy to leave at any time. We hadn’t really been there that long and I would have been happy to whittle away the rest of the afternoon amongst friends, so I found myself being rather surprised at the whole turn of events. Actually surprised doesn’t describe it well enough, I was shocked! After all these were close friends!

Now if I was an introvert myself, I likely would have realised this fact about Jane a lot sooner, but extroverts (or at least this one) seem to be more likely to be completely oblivious to the fact that some people are just not like them. Whereas the extrovert in me was energised by being around family and friends, introverts need to be alone to recharge because socialising wears them out. It’s not that introverts are shy – they can be the life of the party – it’s just that they’ll need some quiet time to recover from that party.

This discovery led me to look further into personality types and I came across the temperaments, which are the aspects of an individual’s personality that are related to behavior and reaction. Our temperament is something we are born with and while it is molded through our choices and experiences, it is never completely erased. While a person is not the sum of their temperament, understanding the temperaments can lend us a vast insight into ourselves and those around us. In understanding the temperaments I came to understand that it wasn’t just that those who were not like me were strange, but rather their strengths and weaknesses were different.

It was Hippocrates, five centuries before Christ, who is thought to have turned the basic theory of temperament into a medical theory so the names of the four temperaments actually stem from various internal fluids around the liver, heart, lungs and kidneys. The temperaments are a key to unlocking the mystery of ourselves, those we love and those whom we exist with at work and at rest.

Sanguine – If you are fun-loving, enthusiastic and sociable then this temperament may be yours. The sanguine is extroverted, adventurous and never seems to run out of energy. Optimistic and not a grudge holder the sanguine is an all-round people person.

Choleric – The choleric is the person who gets the job done…and fast. This temperament has an energy that is ready to overcome any opposition and seems ever confident. Cholerics are born leaders who can think independently and live a disciplined life.

Melancholic – Idealistic, reflective and serious are the traits of the Melancholic person. These are often the sort of people who have become great writers, composers and artists. They might take some time to form friendships but once they do they are very faithful.

Phlegmatic – If you know someone who is diplomatic, patient and calm under pressure then chances are they are have a phlegmatic temperament. The phlegmatic is a peacemaker who more than anything abhors conflict and confrontation.

Most people are a mix of two primary temperaments and there are a host of online temperament tests that can help you discover more about who you are (although you can likely already take a guess from the quick descriptions above). One of the better books I’ve read on the subject is ‘The Temperament God gave you’ by Art & Laraine Bennet. It’s certainly worth putting on your wish list for next Christmas.

Due to my own choleric/melancholic temperament it took Jane a while to understand that I had a tendency to whip out my phone mid conversation with her, to call the person that we were discussing needed to be contacted for whatever reason. Alternatively it has taken me a while to understand that Jane is never going to do anything like that because a phlegmatic/melancholic such as herself, needs time to plan and phrase the appropriate questions and then build up the courage to dial the number and engage in the conversation.

The aphorism “know thyself” was inscribed on the forecourt of the temple of Apollo at Delphi in Ancient Greece. It was and still is a reminder that without knowing who we are we have little hope of really truly knowing much else. The temperaments certainly provide us with a place to begin that study.

11 thoughts on “What Temperament Are You?”

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    Be very careful with such things as this, as it is in some ways just a subtle version of the Enneagram and Astrology. Jungian psychology is very new age, and is very much the Father or Grandfather of the new age. Myers-Briggs is another version of it too used a lot in the educational system. Some of the Myers-Briggs is ok as it identifies learning skills sets, rather than personality types. Identifying learning skills sets can be very important for both children and adults, the personality types is too much hocus-pocus. If by the time you are in your early 20s you do not know what your personality is like, then you need to do a lot of reflection and listening to what your family members have said over the years.

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      Agreed. People should not be pigeon-holed into various personality “types,” most of us act differently according to circumstance. Certain traits such as extreme shyness, may be overcome through perseverance. A positive attitude should be encouraged at all times. After all, God is in the driving seat

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      I’m no longer of an age where anyone would ask me “What is your sign?” But back when I was, I’d always respond with some non-zodiacal constellation, such as “I’m an Orion,” or “I’m a Draco.” I loved watching people walk away scratching their heads, afraid they’d look ignorant if they challenged me.

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    …and to think that if one day God grants me the grace to enter Heaven, I will not have to even think about stuff like this anymore.

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    I remember the 16 personality types, e.g. ENTP, ISFJ, etc. As a Christian, I know there’s some truth to that stuff, but the unlocking truth of the big mysteries of human life is beyond personality formula clap-trap. People are highly complex and unique, but changing. God’s the potter. We are the clay. If you are reading this now, He’s not done with you yet. Jeremiah 18. Apollo can eat dirt.

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    For what it’s worth, the planet Mercury goes into retrograde on Monday the 18th and
    will remain so until June 10th. The symptoms you may want to watch for are garbled
    communications in all areas : speech, computers, language, written contracts (avoid)
    and esp between friends and family. Foreign affairs are particularly tricky. This event happens about 3 times a year and has been tracked for over two thousand years. Forewarned is forearmed. Google it to find the next period.

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    Actually, personality temperament is supported by numerous rock solid studies and has nothing to do with Astrology and is certainly not, as you say, “clap trap.” As a matter of interest, you are responding to this article as a function of your own personality temperament. I recommend Florence Littauer’s book, “Personality Plus,” which is written from a Christian world view. Do a little research on this subject and I think you’ll find it’s very helpful and offers amazing insight into why we think and act as we do.

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      Do a little research on this subject… How well do you know me? I’ve taken college psychology classES where we’ve read “personality” books and administered the tests. But did Jesus read Florence Littauer’s book before He picked His disciples? Will Jesus judge me on the “Personality Plus” rubric? If not, then what difference does all that make to my salvation or yours? “Temperament” on a Catholic website devoted to the new evangelization is a distraction to salvation, a never ending maze. Why not add whole new categories to this website, like Exercising Your Way to Heaven (Yoga)?

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    Kaitlin @ More Like Mary

    I’ve found the study of the temperaments incredibly helpful in both my personal and prayer life. Rather than pigeon holing, it helps me to understand my own reactions and the reactions and behaviors of others and give them a bit more grace in a given sitatuon. I’m also a choleric/melancholic married to a phlegmatic/melancholic. You and I are fortunate to have found someone who will put up with us!

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