Tag: Relationships

Walking Mysteries

Walking Mysteries

[ 5 ] November 5, AD 2014 |

“Anyone who fails to go forward begins to go back, and love, I believe, can never be content to stay for long where it is.” —St. Teresa of Avila Have you ever reached a point in a friendship or relationship where you begin to feel you’re running out of things to talk about? Do you […]

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Go Home and Love Your Family

Go Home and Love Your Family

[ 3 ] September 22, AD 2014 |

I’ve reached that point in my 20-something life where many of my friends are getting married. August is for weddings, apparently. In between the various ceremonies, receptions, and gift registry orders, the most lovely joy simply has been to witness those close to me transition from one season in life into a new one with […]

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The Ephesians 5 Wife: Subject or Spoiled?

The Ephesians 5 Wife: Subject or Spoiled?

[ 8 ] August 24, AD 2014 |

The Bible mentions subjugation of wives and everyone gets upset, but Christian Grey does it and nobody bats an eye! Tell me how this makes sense. I know why this is the case. There is absolute confusion in our culture about sex, love, pleasure, intimacy, marriage, and the Catholic Church. There is such a tangled […]

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Natural Family Planning is Hard

Natural Family Planning is Hard

[ 3 ] August 20, AD 2014 |

Our bodies are complex, intricate mysterious things. They are not outer shells or machines that come with a user’s manual. There is a lot going on that we understand, and probably even more going on that we don’t understand. This really hit home for me with breastfeeding. A forewarning of “it’s not intuitive” turned into […]

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“You Complete Me” and Other Lies We Tell

“You Complete Me” and Other Lies We Tell

[ 4 ] August 8, AD 2014 |

For the first 7 years of our marriage, I tried my darndest to be the best husband on the planet. “Get over yourself, Nic” was my mantra. Whatever she asked for, whatever she needed, whatever she wanted, I would do everything within my power to provide it. I wanted to be what I should be […]

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The 'Sorry, Not Sorry' Phenomenon

The 'Sorry, Not Sorry' Phenomenon

[ 1 ] July 14, AD 2014 |

Chances are that if you are on any one of the major social media sites, you”ll know what I”m talking about when I refer to the “sorry, not sorry” or “#sorrynotsorry” phenomenon. But just in case you aren”t familiar with the phrase, folks tend to post it when they feel like they should be sorry about posting […]

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Oil and Water: Catholic Mixed Marriages

Oil and Water: Catholic Mixed Marriages

[ 5 ] June 4, AD 2014 |

I’ve been hearing a lot lately about mixed marriages–from friends, from Catholic bloggers, etc etc.  I’ve toyed with the idea of writing a little about them before but always hesitated because I didn’t want to write something like a diatribe, or something painfully tangential.  And I will say at the beginning of this article that […]

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Someone, Please, Like Me…

Someone, Please, Like Me…

[ 3 ] May 12, AD 2014 |

“Stockholm syndrome, individuals’ desperate attempts to become like their captors.  On a lesser scale it was why good German citizens followed Hitler, Ryan said.  Or why any person might compromise his or her convictions without realizing he or she was doing so to be accepted.  To be wanted. The world was suffering from Stockholm syndrome.” […]

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Sacramental Marriage: Why Settle for Less?

Sacramental Marriage: Why Settle for Less?

[ 12 ] April 21, AD 2014 |

Chatting with a friend recently, we remarked that having children had made us each realize the value of a Catholic spouse. We both marveled that we had once considered the possibility of compromising. In college, it was easy to flirt with the idea of dating—and even marrying—someone who did not share our faith. I went […]

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Growing In Love

Growing In Love

[ 4 ] March 7, AD 2014 |

It happens- opposites do attract. My husband and I knew that as soon as we started dating. He is a deep thinker – thoughtful, artistic, incredibly hard working – everything I am not. It was those differences that drew us together in the first place. A friend once told me not to worry about whether someone was my same temperament, […]

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True Love Exists Only in Movies and TV Shows

True Love Exists Only in Movies and TV Shows

[ 1 ] January 18, AD 2014 |

I was on a university break in Summer of 2011, catching up with some friends over dinner. It wasn’t long before our conversation turned to personal relationships. My friend confided his fears to me and asked, “What if I don’t love her later in life?” I’m not belittling his fear–it’s one faced by many, including […]

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Denied the City

Denied the City

[ 4 ] November 4, AD 2013 |

But when sex is divorced from love there is a feeling that one has been stopped at the vestibule of the castle of pleasure; that the heart has been denied the city after crossing the bridge. Sadness and melancholy result from such a frustration of destiny, for it is the nature of man to be […]

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Family Life: A Call for Volunteers

Family Life: A Call for Volunteers

[ 5 ] September 29, AD 2013 |

Wait…you want me to be involved? This week was our parish’s Ministry Fair. They have been publicizing this fair for weeks.   When we headed over for Mass, we saw a huge white tent on the lawn, the kind you see for wedding receptions, concerts and the like.  Along with the tent came cookies, bagels, and […]

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Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

[ 7 ] September 23, AD 2013 |

My short answer to this question is yes: I absolutely think it’s possible for a woman to pursue a man, in a real, genuine way that neither defies who we are in our femininity nor buys into what the culture has to offer. Until I was in my 20s, my dating experience was limited, to […]

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Labor Day Weekend, Catholic Style

Labor Day Weekend, Catholic Style

[ 2 ] September 1, AD 2013 |

So what do you do on the Sunday before Labor Day?  I know a lot of people spend time with their families, maybe have a cookout.  My husband even knows someone who got married today.   Labor Day is generally the end of beach season, the end of summer, and for beachcombers like me, the start […]

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Not Alone: Envy and Singlehood

Not Alone: Envy and Singlehood

[ 2 ] August 12, AD 2013 |

Just in case you haven’t seen it, there is a wonderful series going on in the blogosphere called the “Not Alone Series”. The writers are mostly single women who link-up every week to blog about the single life, the struggle and the joys it brings, and how we can grow as single women. Among the […]

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Chastity Is More Than Physical.

Chastity Is More Than Physical.

[ 4 ] July 29, AD 2013 |

I blame the pig roast. When I was 19, a friend invited me to his family’s annual Labor Day Party.  I came with two friends and a baguette.  I left with a huge crush.  I’d already known my friend to be a man of deep faith, teller of cornball jokes, lover of Emma‘s Mr. Knightley, and […]

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Is Monogamy Unnatural?

Is Monogamy Unnatural?

[ 3 ] July 27, AD 2013 |

According to a column last month on CNN.com, to honor each other as man and wife for the rest of our lives is probably impossible. “Strict sexual fidelity is a lofty but perhaps fundamentally doomed aspiration,” wrote Meghan Laslocky, the column’s writer and author of The Little Book of Heartbreak: Love Gone Wrong Through the Ages. […]

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Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

[ 6 ] July 26, AD 2013 |

The dreaded phrase, “I think it would be better if we were just friends“, has been feared by teenagers for decades.  The fear that, after professing love for a girl, she’ll look at him and whip out this infamous line has kept many a boy from even suggesting that next step. Though much could be […]

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From One Catholic Mom to Another

From One Catholic Mom to Another

[ 7 ] July 7, AD 2013 |

As a new mom, going to Mass can be a daunting task.  Questions race through your mind as you sit in church. What happens if he cries? Can I nurse him in the pew? What happens if he spits up?  I found it reassuring to find a seat close to the front, behind a seasoned […]

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Five Books for Summer

Five Books for Summer

[ 4 ] June 27, AD 2013 |

Summer officially started last week, which means the annual sale on beach paperbacks has begun.  But since many of the quick-read bestsellers are not exactly the best “food for the soul”, I’d like to recommend these five books to all of those seeking to go a bit deeper while catching rays. Mr. Blue by Miles […]

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Raise Your Standards

Raise Your Standards

[ 10 ] June 17, AD 2013 |

“To a great extent the level of any civilization is the level of its womanhood. When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, and goodness, the more a man has to aspire to […]

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I’m Not Saving Myself for Marriage

I’m Not Saving Myself for Marriage

[ 13 ] November 17, AD 2012 |

I’m not saving myself for marriage. First, I know no follower of Christ who thinks any of us can save ourselves. Secondly, to say “I’m saving myself” when you mean “I’m saving sex” equates who you are – and therefore your worth – with sex. But your worth is wrapped up in nothing except your […]

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Loving Interchange Is Not Enough

Loving Interchange Is Not Enough

[ 5 ] October 18, AD 2012 |

I feel I can speak for many people that Catholic teaching on sexuality comes across most of the time as a big laundry list of NOs. For example: no masturbating, no fantasizing about sex, no acting out same sex attraction, no extra-marital affairs, no contraception, etc. There is nothing wrong with that, on one hand. […]

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Not So Complicated

Not So Complicated

[ 1 ] September 22, AD 2012 |

Flying home, the college lady next to me mentioned she was in a “complicated” relationship with someone back home. I smiled and said I’d been there. “Make sure you draw clear lines,” I said. “Relationships don’t have to be complicated.” Perhaps this sounds too simplistic – as I fear the lady took it – because […]

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Grace of the Sacrament

Grace of the Sacrament

[ 4 ] September 19, AD 2012 |

My life is about to change.  In about one month, I will be getting married to the love of my life.  To say that things are already getting hectic would be an understatement.  Between working, moving out of my parent’s home into a new apartment and assisting in wedding plans (let’s be real here, my […]

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