Category: Single Life

Go Home and Love Your Family

Go Home and Love Your Family

[ 3 ] September 22, AD 2014 |

I’ve reached that point in my 20-something life where many of my friends are getting married. August is for weddings, apparently. In between the various ceremonies, receptions, and gift registry orders, the most lovely joy simply has been to witness those close to me transition from one season in life into a new one with […]

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Why Chaste People Should Get Uncomfortable

Why Chaste People Should Get Uncomfortable

[ 18 ] June 28, AD 2014 |

Ten years ago, I crossed a modest stage in a well-lit gymnatorium at a private, Protestant school. I was one of 14 high school seniors who wore royal blue caps and gowns and breathed happy sighs of relief upon being given what meant more to us than diplomas: Freedom. For me, freedom meant transition. It […]

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And God Made A Father

And God Made A Father

[ 1 ] June 12, AD 2014 |

“I can’t believe you have a freakin’ kid.” I hear that phrase a lot now from my old high school and college friends. “I know,” I say in reply. “It’s crazy.” It is still a little weird to me, I guess. It’s even weirder how time seems to have sped up since the day I […]

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Don’t bury St. Joseph

Don’t bury St. Joseph

[ 35 ] May 23, AD 2014 |

My husband and I recently sold our home after several months of it being on the market. In the process there were a lot of people, Catholic and non-Catholic alike, who asked if we were going to bury a statue of St. Joseph in our yard. Simple answer: no. Now, I don’t want to mislead […]

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Someone, Please, Like Me…

Someone, Please, Like Me…

[ 3 ] May 12, AD 2014 |

“Stockholm syndrome, individuals’ desperate attempts to become like their captors.  On a lesser scale it was why good German citizens followed Hitler, Ryan said.  Or why any person might compromise his or her convictions without realizing he or she was doing so to be accepted.  To be wanted. The world was suffering from Stockholm syndrome.” […]

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Thoughts On Being Alone

Thoughts On Being Alone

[ 5 ] May 3, AD 2014 |

I sit today in a silent church, the only one in the pew. The only one in the building. I think about the time I was a bridesmaid, buzzed because of a drink but sobered by my status: Single. The only single person in the bridal party. Totally unattached, no prospects. I shook it off, […]

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Is Religious Life Repulsive?

Is Religious Life Repulsive?

[ 32 ] January 18, AD 2014 |

The vows of religious life are repulsive, at least according to an article Br. Justin Hannegan recently wrote in Crisis Magazine provokingly titled: Sacrificing Religious Life on the Altar of Egalitarianism. He writes: All forms of religious life, at their very core, consist of three vows—poverty, chastity, and obedience—and each of these vows is repulsive […]

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Singles! Advent is Our Time

Singles! Advent is Our Time

[ 4 ] December 19, AD 2013 |

Be like those who are waiting for their master to return from the wedding banquet, so that they may open the door for him as soon as he comes and knocks. Luke 12:36 As another glorious Christmas approaches, many of us in the single state of life are experiencing mixed emotions. Who doesn’t enjoy the […]

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Veiled Words: Modesty in Speech and Thought

Veiled Words: Modesty in Speech and Thought

[ 4 ] December 2, AD 2013 |

“The Victorians pretended sex did not exist; the moderns pretend nothing else exists.” Archbishop Fulton J Sheen This is my first post writing for Ignitum Today, and in honour of that I thought I would try to ignite a little debate on a nice controversial topic, sex. Seven years into marriage I’m somewhere right between […]

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Denied the City

Denied the City

[ 4 ] November 4, AD 2013 |

But when sex is divorced from love there is a feeling that one has been stopped at the vestibule of the castle of pleasure; that the heart has been denied the city after crossing the bridge. Sadness and melancholy result from such a frustration of destiny, for it is the nature of man to be […]

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The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

[ 1 ] October 19, AD 2013 |

Since Feb. 28, 2013 — the last day of Pope Benedict’s papacy — I’ve been harboring a secret. A secret I’m ready to share. I sat that morning at the kitchen table, typing grateful Tweets to the pope and waiting to receive news that would make or break my day (and potentially change my life). […]

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The Most Beautiful Thing

The Most Beautiful Thing

[ 1 ] September 23, AD 2013 |

One of my good friends recently invited me over to his home for lunch after Mass. Ordinarily, it would not have been such an unusual get-together but for the fact that he and his wife recently had a newborn child. I was very excited to catch up with them and grateful for their hospitality — […]

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Three Lessons and Two Tips From Audrey Assad

Three Lessons and Two Tips From Audrey Assad

[ 4 ] September 22, AD 2013 |

3 Lessons and 2 Tips is a series of interviews on my blog in which some of my favorite people (and probably some of yours) share three lessons they’ve learned by being married, plus two tips for single people. This edition – which originally appeared on my blog – features Audrey Assad, a Catholic and […]

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Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

[ 5 ] September 9, AD 2013 |

You are not the chewed up gum that is stuck to the sidewalk and trampled on. You are not the spit water in the cup that everyone has spit in after swishing water around in their mouth while eating an Oreo. You are not the duct tape or the post-it note that no longer sticks. […]

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Get Involved!

Get Involved!

[ 2 ] August 13, AD 2013 |

I have worked and volunteered for the church for over 20 years now, helping to teach my first Religious Education class when I was a junior in high school and most recently serving as the Newman Director for a campus in Wisconsin. I love working for the church, but it can still take effort to […]

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Not Alone: Envy and Singlehood

Not Alone: Envy and Singlehood

[ 2 ] August 12, AD 2013 |

Just in case you haven’t seen it, there is a wonderful series going on in the blogosphere called the “Not Alone Series”. The writers are mostly single women who link-up every week to blog about the single life, the struggle and the joys it brings, and how we can grow as single women. Among the […]

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Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

[ 6 ] July 26, AD 2013 |

The dreaded phrase, “I think it would be better if we were just friends“, has been feared by teenagers for decades.  The fear that, after professing love for a girl, she’ll look at him and whip out this infamous line has kept many a boy from even suggesting that next step. Though much could be […]

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Man Enough? An Invitation to Mission

Man Enough? An Invitation to Mission

[ 2 ] July 16, AD 2013 |

“Jesus is not an isolated missionary, he does not want to fulfill his mission alone, but involves his disciples.” – Pope Francis #Man Enough? from Family Missions Company At Family Missions Company we confidently know that God is calling many people today to proclaim the Good News. All Catholic families and laity are called to […]

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Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

[ 7 ] June 29, AD 2013 |

  In a column last month on Salon.com, Jessica Ciencin Henriquez – a fabulous writer, as far as I can tell – called her virginity at marriage a mistake. Wedding night sex was not what the church (nor the purity ring she wore) promised it would be. Neither was her marriage. Six months into it, […]

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Five Books for Summer

Five Books for Summer

[ 4 ] June 27, AD 2013 |

Summer officially started last week, which means the annual sale on beach paperbacks has begun.  But since many of the quick-read bestsellers are not exactly the best “food for the soul”, I’d like to recommend these five books to all of those seeking to go a bit deeper while catching rays. Mr. Blue by Miles […]

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Purity Culture and Abstinence Only Sex Education

Purity Culture and Abstinence Only Sex Education

[ 7 ] June 25, AD 2013 |

In my last column, I discussed the distinctions between abstinence, chastity, and purity, noting that the first of these is a means to an end, the second a virtue as well as an act, and the third a beatitude. In doing so, I cited and even quoted from a few Catholic and secular sources, many […]

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Pew Isolation

Pew Isolation

[ 41 ] June 18, AD 2013 |

I recently had dinner with three fabulous girls. One is married, the other two are single. Our conversation turned towards the single life and we discussed how one of the most difficult things for a single girl is attending Sunday Mass. You walk into church  and find yourself in a pew surrounded by families on […]

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Abstinence, Chastity, and Purity — Part One: Drawing Distinctions

Abstinence, Chastity, and Purity — Part One: Drawing Distinctions

[ 2 ] May 28, AD 2013 |

Abstinence may be a mere means to an end, but it’s often given a bit of a bad rap. Indeed, in the recent spate of posts on the subject here and throughout the Catholic blogosphere, abstinence is treated at best as the pesky little brother of chastity, and at worst it becomes the root of […]

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The Devil Is in Comparison

The Devil Is in Comparison

[ 2 ] May 20, AD 2013 |

I can hardly tell you how often I’ve had the following thoughts lately: “She’s married with three kids and she is only a year older than I am, what am I doing with my life?“ “She’s traveled to six different countries in the last three years, what on Earth have I been doing?“ “He’s got a great […]

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I Know It’s Difficult, I Live It Myself

I Know It’s Difficult, I Live It Myself

[ 9 ] May 16, AD 2013 |

From a talk with my eldest. With her permission. Because teenagers need to know that they’re not alone.  Another bonus of NFP…it makes it easier to promote chastity and abstinence to your children. I noticed the other day that you were listening with rapt attention to the girls at the pool as they talked about […]

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Coming Out: Catholic

Coming Out: Catholic

[ 0 ] April 11, AD 2013 |

Christ equals Love It was just another typical night out with a good friend. I was in my early twenties and life back then seemed so carefree. We had finished getting something to eat and my friend was about to drop me off at home. While enjoying a great conversation, he turned to me and said […]

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