Category: Relationships

Theology from the Floor: Humility and Toddlers

Theology from the Floor: Humility and Toddlers

[ 1 ] November 3, AD 2014 |

One of the most surprising things about being a parent is the number of times I realize that my children are really the ones teaching me.  Of course, they’re very small, and they’re not teaching me academic information.  Instead, they have consistently taught me some very powerful lessons about much more important things like what […]

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Considerations About the Synod

Considerations About the Synod

[ 3 ] October 26, AD 2014 |

In light of the many articles and comments arising from the recent Synod on the Family, I would like to offer some thoughts on the topic at hand that may be helpful for others who are attempting to follow the news on this issue. In any academic setting, and even in every investigative setting, one […]

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Flawless or Holiness; What’s a Parent to Do?

Flawless or Holiness; What’s a Parent to Do?

[ 3 ] October 15, AD 2014 |

As a new parent, I have quickly noticed that everyone has an opinion about the best way to raise my child. Authors, other parents, parishioners, and even strangers on the street are quick to offer advice or criticism of my parenting. As if this were not enough, society tells parents that they are not smart […]

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Synod Psych Up

Synod Psych Up

[ 1 ] October 14, AD 2014 |

Much has been said about the Synod on the Family, underway in Rome right now. Ink has been spilled, opinions made, worry and confusion abound. We hear the drama between bishops, opinions from both sides of the spectrum. Frustration, fear, hope and excitement, all tied together in these historic weeks. As a young, newly married […]

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It Isn’t Mine

It Isn’t Mine

[ 2 ] October 6, AD 2014 |

There is a tendency in ministry to talk about what we do as “ours” or “mine”. I’ve fallen into that trap more times than I can count. My ministry is growing or my program has seen much change and improvement. Wrong. This ministry I’m blessed to work with isn’t mine. It is God’s – He just lets me be […]

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Pregnancy and Hope

Pregnancy and Hope

[ 5 ] October 2, AD 2014 |

In the last month or so we’ve had the joy of sharing this news with our loved ones. Since this is our second baby, the sharing is a little more subdued; mostly just us telling our friends as we see them. It’s not even “Facebook official” yet. I’ve realized something in the time that’s gone […]

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Babies R Us, Or, How I Realized That My Survival was a Miracle

Babies R Us, Or, How I Realized That My Survival was a Miracle

[ 6 ] September 29, AD 2014 |

Creating a baby registry at Babies R Us, can be something of a spiritual epiphany. As my wife and I approached the priestesses at the altar of customer service, we were greeted with joy, warmth, fellowship and unlimited knowledge-of-all-of-the-baby-things, which they promised to impart to us for absolutely free (for six months with financing!) The […]

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Beware what Crosses the Jordan

Beware what Crosses the Jordan

[ 1 ] September 28, AD 2014 |

The following was a reflection I prepared for my prayer group, but I am also indebted to them for some of the insights that followed. The following Scripture, from Joshua 7:1-9, sets the stage for this reflection. But the Israelites acted treacherously with regard to the ban; Achan, son of Carmi, son of Zabdi, son […]

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A Living, Changing Love

A Living, Changing Love

[ 3 ] September 25, AD 2014 |

I remember taking our frozen wedding cake out on our first anniversary, only to discover it was not the same cake we had put in the day after our wedding. The light, fluffy cream, the fresh fruit, and the delicate cake had not held up under the strain of twelve months in the seventh circle […]

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Go Home and Love Your Family

Go Home and Love Your Family

[ 3 ] September 22, AD 2014 |

I’ve reached that point in my 20-something life where many of my friends are getting married. August is for weddings, apparently. In between the various ceremonies, receptions, and gift registry orders, the most lovely joy simply has been to witness those close to me transition from one season in life into a new one with […]

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A God-Centered Romance

A God-Centered Romance

[ 5 ] September 11, AD 2014 |

“Choose someone God-fearing, and make God the center of your relationship.” When this advice was given in a talk for college students about dating and marriage, a girl in the audience asked, “If we’re going to be thinking of God all the time, how can our relationship be exciting?” The idea of a God-centered romance […]

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Pope Francis’ Missionary Impulse: a Transformation I Didn’t Want

Pope Francis’ Missionary Impulse: a Transformation I Didn’t Want

[ 3 ] September 3, AD 2014 |

By Sarah Summers Granger “I dream of a missionary impulse capable of transforming everything.” – Pope Francis Ten years ago, I didn’t want a transformative impulse. I wanted stability, peace, a small dose of the Holy Spirit – just enough to keep me on the straight and narrow. After all kinds of turmoil in my […]

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The Expectant Couples Guide to Praying the Joyful Mysteries

The Expectant Couples Guide to Praying the Joyful Mysteries

[ 1 ] August 29, AD 2014 |

As my wife and I await the arrival of our second child, our first daughter, we have been filled with many similar emotions and feelings that stirred within us during our first pregnancy. In May 2012, we found out we were expecting our son, Noah, who was born in January of 2013. As I reflect […]

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Embracing My Inner Hobbit

Embracing My Inner Hobbit

[ 3 ] August 28, AD 2014 |

Today, a cashier told me that I seemed “really down-to-Earth,” and I decided to take it as a compliment.  A few years ago, however, that would not have been the case. I used to think that caring about the “higher things” meant yearning for a sort of grand existence, feeling destined for greatness.  Recently, I […]

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For the Love of a Dog

For the Love of a Dog

[ 5 ] August 27, AD 2014 |

Dogs were given the task of making God’s love of mankind known every day, and they do a fantastic job of it.

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Crybaby

Crybaby

[ 4 ] August 25, AD 2014 |

Confession time: I’m one of those criers. You know the type. We have a very low crying threshold. Our triggers are many, varied and sometimes trivial: Commercials. Movies. Newspaper columns. Speeches. A particular prayer. And on, on, on. I wasn’t always like this. Oh no. I knew about the criers, because my mom is one. […]

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The Ephesians 5 Wife: Subject or Spoiled?

The Ephesians 5 Wife: Subject or Spoiled?

[ 8 ] August 24, AD 2014 |

The Bible mentions subjugation of wives and everyone gets upset, but Christian Grey does it and nobody bats an eye! Tell me how this makes sense. I know why this is the case. There is absolute confusion in our culture about sex, love, pleasure, intimacy, marriage, and the Catholic Church. There is such a tangled […]

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Anyone Can Do the Housework, but Who is Doing the <em>Home</em>work?

Anyone Can Do the Housework, but Who is Doing the Homework?

[ 2 ] August 24, AD 2014 |

Did you know that it is women who do the majority of housework? Even mothers of young children, who are holding down full time jobs, seem to spend more time than men with a mop and vacuum in hand. This, however, is not new information; every few months you can find a news report somewhere […]

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3 Lessons from My First 3 Months as a Dad

3 Lessons from My First 3 Months as a Dad

[ 3 ] August 20, AD 2014 |

This past May 31, our daughter, Lucy Benedicta, was born, changing our lives forever.  From learning how to hold a baby, to changing a diaper, to installing a car seat, I have had many new experiences as a first-time dad. So far, fatherhood has had its share of highs and lows, but mostly exhaustion in […]

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Natural Family Planning is Hard

Natural Family Planning is Hard

[ 3 ] August 20, AD 2014 |

Our bodies are complex, intricate mysterious things. They are not outer shells or machines that come with a user’s manual. There is a lot going on that we understand, and probably even more going on that we don’t understand. This really hit home for me with breastfeeding. A forewarning of “it’s not intuitive” turned into […]

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Submission Does Not Mean Losing Your Voice

Submission Does Not Mean Losing Your Voice

[ 0 ] August 11, AD 2014 |

Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord. -Ephesians 5:22 I used to think that being submissive or subordinate meant that you didn’t have a say in anything, and that, in essence, you lost your voice. No wonder, then, that Ephesians 5 gets such a bad reputation and is so highly quoted […]

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“You Complete Me” and Other Lies We Tell

“You Complete Me” and Other Lies We Tell

[ 4 ] August 8, AD 2014 |

For the first 7 years of our marriage, I tried my darndest to be the best husband on the planet. “Get over yourself, Nic” was my mantra. Whatever she asked for, whatever she needed, whatever she wanted, I would do everything within my power to provide it. I wanted to be what I should be […]

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Called to Be Saints, Called Home: Lessons on Sainthood from the Parenting Trenches Part 2

Called to Be Saints, Called Home: Lessons on Sainthood from the Parenting Trenches Part 2

[ 1 ] August 7, AD 2014 |

(This post is part of a series. Read Part 1 here.) Until I put it into the context of the child and parent relationship, I never understood how desperately God wants sainthood for every human being. I knew that God was my Father, but my concept of that love was based entirely on my experience as a […]

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Spiritual Attacks on the Expectant Mother (and How to Combat Them)

Spiritual Attacks on the Expectant Mother (and How to Combat Them)

[ 8 ] July 31, AD 2014 |

Whether a woman is expecting her first child, or her fifteenth, pregnancy is filled with many emotions. There is joy and excitement mixed with anticipation and a little nervousness. All these emotions are appropriate, given the weight of what this new little life entails. Like mothers throughout time, I felt these slew of emotions during […]

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Children of God: Lessons on Sainthood from the Parenting Trenches, Part 1

Children of God: Lessons on Sainthood from the Parenting Trenches, Part 1

[ 1 ] July 31, AD 2014 |

The other night at bedtime, I vowed not to read any stories to anyone who did not clean up their toys.  When they saw that there was no possible appeal of this horrible sentence, my children climbed up in the rocking chair together and read each other a story.  Even though they were conspiring to […]

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The Single Best Way to Reduce Abortions

The Single Best Way to Reduce Abortions

[ 3 ] July 26, AD 2014 |

When Lisa Selin Davis told a cabdriver she was going to have an abortion, he pulled the car over on the Brooklyn Bridge in a blizzard. He begged her not to do it. Davis, then a 22-year-old aspiring filmmaker, had conceived the child with a married man she met at a film shoot. But she […]

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