My Husband Isn’...

My husband isn’t trained to pause his video game and come downstairs to greet me when I get home after a long day. My husband isn’t trained to take out the trash. My husband isn’t trained to put his dishes in the dishwasher and set it to run. My husband isn’t trained to...

Why English is the B...

I’m sure you’ve heard it. Your Spanish or French or German speaking friends have mentioned that English is just lacking when it comes to “love.” Maybe you heard in a homily or a talk at a retreat all about the top three Greek words for love (philia, agape, eros), or the...

A Catholic Valentine...

If you are a warm-blooded, sentient, and rational American who desires to love and be loved, then you have probably experienced at some point in your life a profusion of emotions in the days leading up to and on Valentine’s Day. How could you not? From the time of our youth and...

3 Ways Families Can ...

The family is the domestic church. As a part of the larger Church, we too are called to evangelize. Yet often families do not feel like they have the time nor the energy to evangelize. However, there is an easy way to evangelize without leaving the comforts of home: invite a single friend over...

Passing On Motherhoo...

I’ve always loved my mom. It could be that hindsight is 20/20, but I don’t remember my teenage years being awful. My mom and I had our spats, but on the whole I think we got along fairly well. Even in college – halfway across the country – we’d have our tiffs, but...

Why I Got Married in...

I’ve been to some beautiful weddings in some ugly churches. Either the carpet was old, the tabernacle was weird, the lighting was off, or the vestibule smelled like moth balls. Sounds romantic, no? Having taught Theology to teenage girls for years, one of the first questions they ask...

A Servant’s He...

Last night, my husband Will and I put our little daughter Grace to bed and had our first moments of alone time… barely, before Will had to leave to go to work until 7 a.m. I became a barnacle while he talked to me, and before I went downstairs to fix his dinner and coffee, I begged him...

Why I Did Invite Fam...

There’s an article doing the rounds on Social Media at the moment. It is titled “Why I Didn’t Invite Family Or Friends To My Wedding”. And that’s great. But here’s why I did invite family and friends (and lots of them, we come from big families) to my our...

Theology from the Fl...

One of the most surprising things about being a parent is the number of times I realize that my children are really the ones teaching me.  Of course, they’re very small, and they’re not teaching me academic information.  Instead, they have consistently taught me some very...

Considerations About...

In light of the many articles and comments arising from the recent Synod on the Family, I would like to offer some thoughts on the topic at hand that may be helpful for others who are attempting to follow the news on this issue. In any academic setting, and even in every investigative setting,...

Synod Psych Up

Much has been said about the Synod on the Family, underway in Rome right now. Ink has been spilled, opinions made, worry and confusion abound. We hear the drama between bishops, opinions from both sides of the spectrum. Frustration, fear, hope and excitement, all tied together in these...

Babies R Us, Or, How...

Creating a baby registry at Babies R Us, can be something of a spiritual epiphany. As my wife and I approached the priestesses at the altar of customer service, we were greeted with joy, warmth, fellowship and unlimited knowledge-of-all-of-the-baby-things, which they promised to impart to us...

A Living, Changing L...

I remember taking our frozen wedding cake out on our first anniversary, only to discover it was not the same cake we had put in the day after our wedding. The light, fluffy cream, the fresh fruit, and the delicate cake had not held up under the strain of twelve months in the seventh circle of...

Go Home and Love You...

I’ve reached that point in my 20-something life where many of my friends are getting married. August is for weddings, apparently. In between the various ceremonies, receptions, and gift registry orders, the most lovely joy simply has been to witness those close to me transition from one...

Pope Francis’ Missio...

By Sarah Summers Granger “I dream of a missionary impulse capable of transforming everything.” – Pope Francis Ten years ago, I didn’t want a transformative impulse. I wanted stability, peace, a small dose of the Holy Spirit – just enough to keep me on the straight and...

The Expectant Couple...

As my wife and I await the arrival of our second child, our first daughter, we have been filled with many similar emotions and feelings that stirred within us during our first pregnancy. In May 2012, we found out we were expecting our son, Noah, who was born in January of 2013. As I reflect on...

The Ephesians 5 Wife...

The Bible mentions subjugation of wives and everyone gets upset, but Christian Grey does it and nobody bats an eye! Tell me how this makes sense. I know why this is the case. There is absolute confusion in our culture about sex, love, pleasure, intimacy, marriage, and the Catholic Church....

Anyone Can Do the Ho...

Did you know that it is women who do the majority of housework? Even mothers of young children, who are holding down full time jobs, seem to spend more time than men with a mop and vacuum in hand. This, however, is not new information; every few months you can find a news report somewhere...

Natural Family Plann...

Our bodies are complex, intricate mysterious things. They are not outer shells or machines that come with a user’s manual. There is a lot going on that we understand, and probably even more going on that we don’t understand. This really hit home for me with breastfeeding. A forewarning of...

Submission Does Not ...

Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord. -Ephesians 5:22 I used to think that being submissive or subordinate meant that you didn’t have a say in anything, and that, in essence, you lost your voice. No wonder, then, that Ephesians 5 gets such a bad reputation and...

Knowing Christ the B...

About eighteen months into my marriage I was assessing my spiritual life when I realized something: while I had a wonderful relationship with God the Father and was quite drawn to God the Spirit, my relationship with God the Son was hurting. As a young mom I identified with the Father and...

On Polished Wedding ...

I always thought that wedding rings should be simple, like tiny little handcuffs that you would use to happily shackle yourself to another person for the rest of your lives. And so, choosing a wedding band was easy when my husband and I married nearly five years ago. It was a simple, white...

The Myth of 100%

With my own marriage mere weeks old now, I can’t help but reflect on this notion that you have to be 100% sure about the person you are going to marry before you get engaged. Somehow this notion of “100% certainty” has taken over with many of my friends near and far. Allow...

And God Made A Fathe...

“I can’t believe you have a freakin’ kid.” I hear that phrase a lot now from my old high school and college friends. “I know,” I say in reply. “It’s crazy.” It is still a little weird to me, I guess. It’s even weirder how time seems to have sped up since the day I first...

A Woman's Guide...

At the risk of redundancy, I am going to foist one more of these articles on you. This is a topic I am extremely passionate about, and I think we can all benefit from learning more about the way God actually designed men and women. I think a basic misunderstanding of men and women is at the...

Celibates Make Great...

There are a few things that I do every day. I brush my teeth. I drink a cup, or three, of coffee. I check my e-mail, and I kiss and pinch the cheeks of my two sons. As most parents would testify, I love my children. I love their laughs, their hugs. I love seeing them learn and watching them...

“Spice Up Your...

Hallie Lord’s new e-book Spice Up Your Marriage turns up the heat. In a 28 day challenge, she offers tips and ideas that will rekindle low burning flames or ignite candles into torches. Yes, the book is mainly for women but it is only a man that can testify to its veracity. My wife and I...

A Letter to Silence ...

Dear Silence and Solitude, I miss you. Over the past few years I have seen our time together dwindle. From long periods a few years back, to now brief glimpses of each other, sweet moments that are far between. Our time together has been invaded by four sweet and energetic children who are...

Don’t bury St....

My husband and I recently sold our home after several months of it being on the market. In the process there were a lot of people, Catholic and non-Catholic alike, who asked if we were going to bury a statue of St. Joseph in our yard. Simple answer: no. Now, I don’t want to mislead you:...

Six Reasons It’...

The Huffington Post recently released an article titled “10 Reasons It’s Totally Fine to Never Get Married.”  The reasons are as bad as you might be thinking. Reasons like: – “For men, being married could be connected to being overweight.” –...

Those That Came Befo...

To all of those who came before: Thank you. Thank you for having the courage to end things, even though it may have been hard. Thank you for recognizing that I wasn’t “The One,” even if I told you that idea was insane. Thank you for letting me go so that God could bring...

Setting the Example

There’s a young couple at church that we like hanging out with.  They’re in their twenties and just starting out, but so smart and fun that they just are miles and years ahead of where we were at that age. They don’t treat us like the old fogeys we are, who wouldn’t...

In Defense of the Fa...

Divorce is an unnatural occurrence. At least, it should be. Unfortunately, we don’t all view marriage through the lens of the Church. We don’t all see marriage as an unbreakable commitment, a Sacrament, or a holy union created by God. Instead, in these modern times, many of us see it as a...

Sacramental Marriage...

Chatting with a friend recently, we remarked that having children had made us each realize the value of a Catholic spouse. We both marveled that we had once considered the possibility of compromising. In college, it was easy to flirt with the idea of dating—and even marrying—someone who...

More of the Same

Recently, as I was driving home, I was reflecting on the day and what a chaotic week it was going to pan out to be. Then I thought to myself, is this how it will always be?  It seems since getting engaged that each week has had its own project. Week 1: Pick a date, find officiants, book the...

Catholic “Baby...

We’ve all heard the comments. If you are the parents of more than 2.5 children or come from a family of more than 2.5 siblings, then you’ve heard something at some point in your life. It can be a nod and a wink with a sarcastic “You guys are busy”, as if having five...

In Defense of “...

Simcha Fisher responded to my article. Simcha Fisher. I was thrilled to hear that I’d gotten the attention of Mrs. Fisher and that she had not only read my piece, but had decided that it was good enough – or bad enough – to merit a response on her part. After reading her response and the...

Marriage: The 100-10...

My heart beat a bit faster as I struggled to sit comfortably on the couch I had carelessly reclined on so many times before.  My angst made the room where we met for marriage preparation seem smaller than I recalled.  The priest who was going to celebrate our marriage would be there shortly,...

Not A Game of Chance...

...the love my fiancé and I share is not human, it is divine. We love each other because we love God and we have discovered that in loving one another, we get to love God more fully...

Growing In Love

It happens- opposites do attract. My husband and I knew that as soon as we started dating. He is a deep thinker – thoughtful, artistic, incredibly hard working – everything I am not. It was those differences that drew us together in the first place. A friend once told me not...