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The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

October 19, AD 2013 1 Comment
The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

Since Feb. 28, 2013 — the last day of Pope Benedict’s papacy — I’ve been harboring a secret. A secret I’m ready to share. I sat that morning at the kitchen table, typing grateful Tweets to the pope and waiting to receive news that would make or break my day (and potentially change my life). […]

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Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

September 23, AD 2013 7 Comments
Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

My short answer to this question is yes: I absolutely think it’s possible for a woman to pursue a man, in a real, genuine way that neither defies who we are in our femininity nor buys into what the culture has to offer. Until I was in my 20s, my dating experience was limited, to […]

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Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

September 9, AD 2013 5 Comments
Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

You are not the chewed up gum that is stuck to the sidewalk and trampled on. You are not the spit water in the cup that everyone has spit in after swishing water around in their mouth while eating an Oreo. You are not the duct tape or the post-it note that no longer sticks. […]

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Chastity Is More Than Physical.

July 29, AD 2013 4 Comments
Chastity Is More Than Physical.

I blame the pig roast. When I was 19, a friend invited me to his family’s annual Labor Day Party.  I came with two friends and a baguette.  I left with a huge crush.  I’d already known my friend to be a man of deep faith, teller of cornball jokes, lover of Emma‘s Mr. Knightley, and […]

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Is Monogamy Unnatural?

July 27, AD 2013 3 Comments
Is Monogamy Unnatural?

According to a column last month on CNN.com, to honor each other as man and wife for the rest of our lives is probably impossible. “Strict sexual fidelity is a lofty but perhaps fundamentally doomed aspiration,” wrote Meghan Laslocky, the column’s writer and author of The Little Book of Heartbreak: Love Gone Wrong Through the Ages. […]

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Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

July 26, AD 2013 6 Comments
Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

The dreaded phrase, “I think it would be better if we were just friends“, has been feared by teenagers for decades.  The fear that, after professing love for a girl, she’ll look at him and whip out this infamous line has kept many a boy from even suggesting that next step. Though much could be […]

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Not Ready For Heaven: Things I’m Embarrassed to Admit

July 1, AD 2013 5 Comments
Not Ready For Heaven: Things I’m Embarrassed to Admit

When Roger Ebert died of cancer a few months ago, I came across this article he wrote about his wife, whom he adored, and their frequent wanderings and adventures.  Maybe it was just my pregnancy hormones, but I couldn’t stop crying.  It was her second marriage and his first, late in life, and he says, “this woman […]

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Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

June 29, AD 2013 7 Comments
Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

  In a column last month on Salon.com, Jessica Ciencin Henriquez – a fabulous writer, as far as I can tell – called her virginity at marriage a mistake. Wedding night sex was not what the church (nor the purity ring she wore) promised it would be. Neither was her marriage. Six months into it, […]

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Five Books for Summer

June 27, AD 2013 4 Comments
Five Books for Summer

Summer officially started last week, which means the annual sale on beach paperbacks has begun.  But since many of the quick-read bestsellers are not exactly the best “food for the soul”, I’d like to recommend these five books to all of those seeking to go a bit deeper while catching rays. Mr. Blue by Miles […]

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Raise Your Standards

June 17, AD 2013 10 Comments
Raise Your Standards

“To a great extent the level of any civilization is the level of its womanhood. When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, and goodness, the more a man has to aspire to […]

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Abstinence, Chastity, and Purity — Part One: Drawing Distinctions

May 28, AD 2013 2 Comments
Abstinence, Chastity, and Purity — Part One: Drawing Distinctions

Abstinence may be a mere means to an end, but it’s often given a bit of a bad rap. Indeed, in the recent spate of posts on the subject here and throughout the Catholic blogosphere, abstinence is treated at best as the pesky little brother of chastity, and at worst it becomes the root of […]

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Sex Ed and Men and the Marriage Bed

May 24, AD 2013 8 Comments
Sex Ed and Men and the Marriage Bed

In all the discussions about abstinence-only sex ed  there is much talk about spit and water, licked ice cream cones, and tape that is no longer sticky. Obviously, as many other writers have already pointed out,  that kind of abstinence-only sex ed leaves much to be desired, especially for the women who – for one reason or another – did have sex before […]

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The Top Five Ways to -NOT- Grow in Emotional Purity

May 2, AD 2013 0 Comments
The Top Five Ways to -NOT- Grow in Emotional Purity

After listening to a great talk issued by Lighthouse Catholic Media’s new young adult line, Truth be Told, I found myself greatly in need of an emotional chastity makeover.  The talk, entitled “Why Do Women Do That?” and given by Lisa Cotter, examined the way a woman’s mind works, how men should best respond, and […]

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The Kleisman Trophy

December 20, AD 2012 3 Comments
The Kleisman Trophy

It’s not my tradition to be glued to the tube for the Heisman Trophy Award Show, but this year was different.  I’m a K-State Wildcat alumna and one of our own, Collin Klein, was one of the three finalists for the award.  And as Johnny Manzel from Texas A & M was handed the trophy […]

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Pre-Marital Counseling

November 28, AD 2012 3 Comments
Pre-Marital Counseling

The Feature of Florida, the Rockin’ Wave of the West Coast of the Atlantic, the Goodness of the Gulf, Arleen Spenceley asked for a guest post on pre-marital counseling.  Here is part of my response with linkage to “the rest of the story.”  Arleen also contributes over here too.  Why am I proponent of pre-marital […]

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