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Your Vocation Is To Love

January 25, AD 2016 2 Comments
Your Vocation Is To Love

I’ve noticed that so many young Catholics have an inordinate amount anxiety about their vocations. I definitely put myself into this category. When I understood that my vocation was to the married life, it felt like I spent every waking moment worrying about it. Was this particular person “The One”? Was this other particular person […]

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Keep Your Emotions In Check

July 10, AD 2015 1 Comment
Keep Your Emotions In Check

“Become the woman of your dreams, then you will attract the man of your dreams.” -Sarah Swafford  Emotional chastity is not to prevent love, it’s to give you authentic love. Emotional chastity, like physical chastity, requires discipline. We all have sexual desires, but by living out the virtue of chastity, we don’t let those desires […]

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A Couch Is NOT a Promise

April 16, AD 2015 11 Comments
A Couch Is NOT a Promise

Not too long ago, my best friend moved in with her boyfriend. It’s a big deal: this is her third long-term, serious relationship, but the first one she felt confident enough in to say, “Hey, I like you so much, I’m going to live with you.” I have very mixed feelings about this whole thing. […]

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When Waiting is Really Hard

February 20, AD 2015 6 Comments
When Waiting is Really Hard

In reaction to the increasing physical immorality spreading through society today, and in an attempt to counter the message  constantly being sold through advertising, movies, music, and even best-selling books that says sexual intimacy is not only okay, but expected, outside of marriage, the Catholic online world has been buzzing with all sorts of articles […]

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Why English is the Best Language to Talk About “Love”

February 14, AD 2015 2 Comments
Why English is the Best Language to Talk About “Love”

I’m sure you’ve heard it. Your Spanish or French or German speaking friends have mentioned that English is just lacking when it comes to “love.” Maybe you heard in a homily or a talk at a retreat all about the top three Greek words for love (philia, agape, eros), or the seemingly endless list of Latin terms […]

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A Catholic Valentine’s Day: How to reclaim and retain your sanity

February 12, AD 2015 1 Comment
A Catholic Valentine’s Day: How to reclaim and retain your sanity

If you are a warm-blooded, sentient, and rational American who desires to love and be loved, then you have probably experienced at some point in your life a profusion of emotions in the days leading up to and on Valentine’s Day. How could you not? From the time of our youth and continuing all the way through adulthood, there is […]

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A God-Centered Romance

September 11, AD 2014 5 Comments
A God-Centered Romance

“Choose someone God-fearing, and make God the center of your relationship.” When this advice was given in a talk for college students about dating and marriage, a girl in the audience asked, “If we’re going to be thinking of God all the time, how can our relationship be exciting?” The idea of a God-centered romance […]

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The Single Best Way to Reduce Abortions

July 26, AD 2014 3 Comments
The Single Best Way to Reduce Abortions

When Lisa Selin Davis told a cabdriver she was going to have an abortion, he pulled the car over on the Brooklyn Bridge in a blizzard. He begged her not to do it. Davis, then a 22-year-old aspiring filmmaker, had conceived the child with a married man she met at a film shoot. But she […]

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Why Chaste People Should Get Uncomfortable

June 28, AD 2014 18 Comments
Why Chaste People Should Get Uncomfortable

Ten years ago, I crossed a modest stage in a well-lit gymnatorium at a private, Protestant school. I was one of 14 high school seniors who wore royal blue caps and gowns and breathed happy sighs of relief upon being given what meant more to us than diplomas: Freedom. For me, freedom meant transition. It […]

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The Myth of 100%

June 16, AD 2014 3 Comments
The Myth of 100%

With my own marriage mere weeks old now, I can’t help but reflect on this notion that you have to be 100% sure about the person you are going to marry before you get engaged. Somehow this notion of “100% certainty” has taken over with many of my friends near and far. Allow me, if you will, […]

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Those That Came Before

May 21, AD 2014 1 Comment
Those That Came Before

To all of those who came before: Thank you. Thank you for having the courage to end things, even though it may have been hard. Thank you for recognizing that I wasn’t “The One,” even if I told you that idea was insane. Thank you for letting me go so that God could bring something […]

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When Dating Is Hard

March 7, AD 2014 9 Comments
When Dating Is Hard

First, there is the question of meeting someone. And if you meet a person you like so much, and maybe they like you too, the bigger questions start to emerge. Our short-term selves may want to be in a relationship, but our long-term selves need to consider the investment dating requires of each of us. […]

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Denied the City

November 4, AD 2013 4 Comments
Denied the City

But when sex is divorced from love there is a feeling that one has been stopped at the vestibule of the castle of pleasure; that the heart has been denied the city after crossing the bridge. Sadness and melancholy result from such a frustration of destiny, for it is the nature of man to be […]

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The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

October 19, AD 2013 1 Comment
The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

Since Feb. 28, 2013 — the last day of Pope Benedict’s papacy — I’ve been harboring a secret. A secret I’m ready to share. I sat that morning at the kitchen table, typing grateful Tweets to the pope and waiting to receive news that would make or break my day (and potentially change my life). […]

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Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

September 23, AD 2013 7 Comments
Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

My short answer to this question is yes: I absolutely think it’s possible for a woman to pursue a man, in a real, genuine way that neither defies who we are in our femininity nor buys into what the culture has to offer. Until I was in my 20s, my dating experience was limited, to […]

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