Category: Dating

A God-Centered Romance

A God-Centered Romance

[ 5 ] September 11, AD 2014 |

“Choose someone God-fearing, and make God the center of your relationship.” When this advice was given in a talk for college students about dating and marriage, a girl in the audience asked, “If we’re going to be thinking of God all the time, how can our relationship be exciting?” The idea of a God-centered romance […]

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The Single Best Way to Reduce Abortions

The Single Best Way to Reduce Abortions

[ 3 ] July 26, AD 2014 |

When Lisa Selin Davis told a cabdriver she was going to have an abortion, he pulled the car over on the Brooklyn Bridge in a blizzard. He begged her not to do it. Davis, then a 22-year-old aspiring filmmaker, had conceived the child with a married man she met at a film shoot. But she […]

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Why Chaste People Should Get Uncomfortable

Why Chaste People Should Get Uncomfortable

[ 18 ] June 28, AD 2014 |

Ten years ago, I crossed a modest stage in a well-lit gymnatorium at a private, Protestant school. I was one of 14 high school seniors who wore royal blue caps and gowns and breathed happy sighs of relief upon being given what meant more to us than diplomas: Freedom. For me, freedom meant transition. It […]

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The Myth of 100%

The Myth of 100%

[ 3 ] June 16, AD 2014 |

With my own marriage mere weeks old now, I can’t help but reflect on this notion that you have to be 100% sure about the person you are going to marry before you get engaged. Somehow this notion of “100% certainty” has taken over with many of my friends near and far. Allow me, if you will, […]

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Those That Came Before

Those That Came Before

[ 1 ] May 21, AD 2014 |

To all of those who came before: Thank you. Thank you for having the courage to end things, even though it may have been hard. Thank you for recognizing that I wasn’t “The One,” even if I told you that idea was insane. Thank you for letting me go so that God could bring something […]

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When Dating Is Hard

When Dating Is Hard

[ 9 ] March 7, AD 2014 |

First, there is the question of meeting someone. And if you meet a person you like so much, and maybe they like you too, the bigger questions start to emerge. Our short-term selves may want to be in a relationship, but our long-term selves need to consider the investment dating requires of each of us. […]

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Denied the City

Denied the City

[ 4 ] November 4, AD 2013 |

But when sex is divorced from love there is a feeling that one has been stopped at the vestibule of the castle of pleasure; that the heart has been denied the city after crossing the bridge. Sadness and melancholy result from such a frustration of destiny, for it is the nature of man to be […]

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The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

[ 1 ] October 19, AD 2013 |

Since Feb. 28, 2013 — the last day of Pope Benedict’s papacy — I’ve been harboring a secret. A secret I’m ready to share. I sat that morning at the kitchen table, typing grateful Tweets to the pope and waiting to receive news that would make or break my day (and potentially change my life). […]

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Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

[ 7 ] September 23, AD 2013 |

My short answer to this question is yes: I absolutely think it’s possible for a woman to pursue a man, in a real, genuine way that neither defies who we are in our femininity nor buys into what the culture has to offer. Until I was in my 20s, my dating experience was limited, to […]

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Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

[ 5 ] September 9, AD 2013 |

You are not the chewed up gum that is stuck to the sidewalk and trampled on. You are not the spit water in the cup that everyone has spit in after swishing water around in their mouth while eating an Oreo. You are not the duct tape or the post-it note that no longer sticks. […]

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Chastity Is More Than Physical.

Chastity Is More Than Physical.

[ 4 ] July 29, AD 2013 |

I blame the pig roast. When I was 19, a friend invited me to his family’s annual Labor Day Party.  I came with two friends and a baguette.  I left with a huge crush.  I’d already known my friend to be a man of deep faith, teller of cornball jokes, lover of Emma‘s Mr. Knightley, and […]

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Is Monogamy Unnatural?

Is Monogamy Unnatural?

[ 3 ] July 27, AD 2013 |

According to a column last month on CNN.com, to honor each other as man and wife for the rest of our lives is probably impossible. “Strict sexual fidelity is a lofty but perhaps fundamentally doomed aspiration,” wrote Meghan Laslocky, the column’s writer and author of The Little Book of Heartbreak: Love Gone Wrong Through the Ages. […]

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Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

[ 5 ] July 26, AD 2013 |

The dreaded phrase, “I think it would be better if we were just friends“, has been feared by teenagers for decades.  The fear that, after professing love for a girl, she’ll look at him and whip out this infamous line has kept many a boy from even suggesting that next step. Though much could be […]

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Not Ready For Heaven: Things I’m Embarrassed to Admit

Not Ready For Heaven: Things I’m Embarrassed to Admit

[ 5 ] July 1, AD 2013 |

When Roger Ebert died of cancer a few months ago, I came across this article he wrote about his wife, whom he adored, and their frequent wanderings and adventures.  Maybe it was just my pregnancy hormones, but I couldn’t stop crying.  It was her second marriage and his first, late in life, and he says, “this woman […]

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Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

[ 7 ] June 29, AD 2013 |

  In a column last month on Salon.com, Jessica Ciencin Henriquez – a fabulous writer, as far as I can tell – called her virginity at marriage a mistake. Wedding night sex was not what the church (nor the purity ring she wore) promised it would be. Neither was her marriage. Six months into it, […]

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Five Books for Summer

Five Books for Summer

[ 4 ] June 27, AD 2013 |

Summer officially started last week, which means the annual sale on beach paperbacks has begun.  But since many of the quick-read bestsellers are not exactly the best “food for the soul”, I’d like to recommend these five books to all of those seeking to go a bit deeper while catching rays. Mr. Blue by Miles […]

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