Category: Dating

When Dating Is Hard

When Dating Is Hard

[ 8 ] March 7, AD 2014 |

First, there is the question of meeting someone. And if you meet a person you like so much, and maybe they like you too, the bigger questions start to emerge. Our short-term selves may want to be in a relationship, but our long-term selves need to consider the investment dating requires of each of us. […]

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Denied the City

Denied the City

[ 4 ] November 4, AD 2013 |

But when sex is divorced from love there is a feeling that one has been stopped at the vestibule of the castle of pleasure; that the heart has been denied the city after crossing the bridge. Sadness and melancholy result from such a frustration of destiny, for it is the nature of man to be […]

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The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

The Biggest Announcement I Have Ever Made

[ 1 ] October 19, AD 2013 |

Since Feb. 28, 2013 — the last day of Pope Benedict’s papacy — I’ve been harboring a secret. A secret I’m ready to share. I sat that morning at the kitchen table, typing grateful Tweets to the pope and waiting to receive news that would make or break my day (and potentially change my life). […]

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Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

Can A Woman Pursue A Man?

[ 6 ] September 23, AD 2013 |

My short answer to this question is yes: I absolutely think it’s possible for a woman to pursue a man, in a real, genuine way that neither defies who we are in our femininity nor buys into what the culture has to offer. Until I was in my 20s, my dating experience was limited, to […]

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Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

Just Don’t Say It: Chewed Gum, Spit Cups, and Duct Tape

[ 4 ] September 9, AD 2013 |

You are not the chewed up gum that is stuck to the sidewalk and trampled on. You are not the spit water in the cup that everyone has spit in after swishing water around in their mouth while eating an Oreo. You are not the duct tape or the post-it note that no longer sticks. […]

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Chastity Is More Than Physical.

Chastity Is More Than Physical.

[ 4 ] July 29, AD 2013 |

I blame the pig roast. When I was 19, a friend invited me to his family’s annual Labor Day Party.  I came with two friends and a baguette.  I left with a huge crush.  I’d already known my friend to be a man of deep faith, teller of cornball jokes, lover of Emma‘s Mr. Knightley, and […]

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Is Monogamy Unnatural?

Is Monogamy Unnatural?

[ 3 ] July 27, AD 2013 |

According to a column last month on CNN.com, to honor each other as man and wife for the rest of our lives is probably impossible. “Strict sexual fidelity is a lofty but perhaps fundamentally doomed aspiration,” wrote Meghan Laslocky, the column’s writer and author of The Little Book of Heartbreak: Love Gone Wrong Through the Ages. […]

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Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

Not Alone: “Just Friends?”

[ 4 ] July 26, AD 2013 |

The dreaded phrase, “I think it would be better if we were just friends“, has been feared by teenagers for decades.  The fear that, after professing love for a girl, she’ll look at him and whip out this infamous line has kept many a boy from even suggesting that next step. Though much could be […]

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Not Ready For Heaven: Things I’m Embarrassed to Admit

Not Ready For Heaven: Things I’m Embarrassed to Admit

[ 5 ] July 1, AD 2013 |

When Roger Ebert died of cancer a few months ago, I came across this article he wrote about his wife, whom he adored, and their frequent wanderings and adventures.  Maybe it was just my pregnancy hormones, but I couldn’t stop crying.  It was her second marriage and his first, late in life, and he says, “this woman […]

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Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

Is Virginity at Marriage a Mistake?

[ 7 ] June 29, AD 2013 |

  In a column last month on Salon.com, Jessica Ciencin Henriquez – a fabulous writer, as far as I can tell – called her virginity at marriage a mistake. Wedding night sex was not what the church (nor the purity ring she wore) promised it would be. Neither was her marriage. Six months into it, […]

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Five Books for Summer

Five Books for Summer

[ 4 ] June 27, AD 2013 |

Summer officially started last week, which means the annual sale on beach paperbacks has begun.  But since many of the quick-read bestsellers are not exactly the best “food for the soul”, I’d like to recommend these five books to all of those seeking to go a bit deeper while catching rays. Mr. Blue by Miles […]

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Raise Your Standards

Raise Your Standards

[ 9 ] June 17, AD 2013 |

“To a great extent the level of any civilization is the level of its womanhood. When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, and goodness, the more a man has to aspire to […]

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Abstinence, Chastity, and Purity — Part One: Drawing Distinctions

Abstinence, Chastity, and Purity — Part One: Drawing Distinctions

[ 2 ] May 28, AD 2013 |

Abstinence may be a mere means to an end, but it’s often given a bit of a bad rap. Indeed, in the recent spate of posts on the subject here and throughout the Catholic blogosphere, abstinence is treated at best as the pesky little brother of chastity, and at worst it becomes the root of […]

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Sex Ed and Men and the Marriage Bed

Sex Ed and Men and the Marriage Bed

[ 8 ] May 24, AD 2013 |

In all the discussions about abstinence-only sex ed lately there is much talk about spit and water, licked ice cream cones, and tape that is no longer sticky. Obviously, as many other writers have already pointed out,  that kind of abstinence-only sex ed leaves much to be desired, especially for the women who – for one reason or another – did have sex before […]

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The Top Five Ways to -NOT- Grow in Emotional Purity

The Top Five Ways to -NOT- Grow in Emotional Purity

[ 0 ] May 2, AD 2013 |

After listening to a great talk issued by Lighthouse Catholic Media’s new young adult line, Truth be Told, I found myself greatly in need of an emotional chastity makeover.  The talk, entitled “Why Do Women Do That?” and given by Lisa Cotter, examined the way a woman’s mind works, how men should best respond, and […]

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The Kleisman Trophy

The Kleisman Trophy

[ 3 ] December 20, AD 2012 |

It’s not my tradition to be glued to the tube for the Heisman Trophy Award Show, but this year was different.  I’m a K-State Wildcat alumna and one of our own, Collin Klein, was one of the three finalists for the award.  And as Johnny Manzel from Texas A & M was handed the trophy […]

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