Author Archive: Stephanie Calis
Born a hop, skip, and jump from the Chesapeake Bay, Stephanie now resides in Appalachia, thanks to love. Her sweet husband Andrew teaches English there. She delights in bike rides, good books, puddle jumping, The Avett Brothers, hammocks, avocados, and the notes Andrew sneaks under her pillow. She is thirsty. Knowing so many others are, too, she spent a missionary year with Generation Life speaking to students about human dignity and authentic love. Her passion is telling young women they possess immense worth and that pure, sacrificial love is real; she thinks a truthful understanding of sex and love is medicine for an aching culture. Upon noticing there were few resources for Catholic brides-to-be, Stephanie decided to make a humble attempt at filling the void. Her blog,Captive the Heart, is a collection of wedding ideas, spiritual reflections, inspired dates, and general ways to plan a sacred, stylish celebration and a holy marriage.
My short answer to this question is yes: I absolutely think it’s possible for a woman to pursue a man, in a real, genuine way that neither defies who we are in our femininity nor buys into what the culture has to offer. Until I was in my 20s, my dating experience was limited, to […]
I blame the pig roast. When I was 19, a friend invited me to his family’s annual Labor Day Party. I came with two friends and a baguette. I left with a huge crush. I’d already known my friend to be a man of deep faith, teller of cornball jokes, lover of Emma‘s Mr. Knightley, and […]
When Roger Ebert died of cancer a few months ago, I came across this article he wrote about his wife, whom he adored, and their frequent wanderings and adventures. Maybe it was just my pregnancy hormones, but I couldn’t stop crying. It was her second marriage and his first, late in life, and he says, “this woman […]
Aside from the good stuff like Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, a lot of questionable things came out of the 80s. Perms, spandex, Rick Astley…if there’s a kernel of truth from that decade, though, it’s this: love is a battlefield. Thanks, Pat Benatar. Seriously, during my engagement, I became more aware of spiritual warfare than I ever had before, […]
I am a woman under siege. Lately, for reasons not entirely known to me, I’ve constantly fallen into despair about my worth, my talents, and my virtues. Several times a week I inexplicably find myself in tears, hopelessly unable to believe that I’m beautiful and dignified simply because I am made in His image, that […]
Flax oil was the gateway. When I got engaged two years ago and signed up for Natural Family Planning courses, I received a hefty box containing workbooks, charts, a thermometer, and most interestingly, the book Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition by Marilyn Shannon. Figuring the months leading up to my wedding and eventually, babies, were as good a […]